1.with在文中是什么意思?The lady with the white fence taught me to le

1.with在文中是什么意思?The lady with the white fence taught me to leave the...
2.请问：这个句子为什么用过去时态?并翻译此句 "But weren't you sad when they expanded the road and everything changed so much?"
全文如下：The lady with the white fence taught me to leave the gate to life open My husband died in an accident and I bacame very angry.I heled being alone one day when I was driving down a busy street.I suddenly noticed a new fence around a house I pulled off to really watch it.it was such a good street that I was moved I could not send myself away The fence still smelled of fresh paint
"Hello!" I came up and said to a lady in the back garden."I came to see the fence It's so beautiful!"
“oh!The rence is not there forme,”the lady explained to me in a calm voice "I live alone But so many people pass by everyday and I think they may be happy to see something really arltractive some stop like you and come up to chat
"But weren't you sad when they expanded the road and everything changed so much?"
"change is part of life and takes part in making us who we are when something we do not like happens to us we have two choices-to become a bitter person or to become a better person"
Her answer changed my life I quickly left the gate open and drove on with a new feeling inside me.I could not tell what it was,but I feel the thick stone wall around my angry heart breaking off And apretty white fence was built yet.I decded that I would keep the gate open for everthing and everyone that came my way.

我觉得with是在……附近,或靠着……的意思.
翻译 但是当他们拓宽马路,把一切都改变的时候,你不感觉难过吗?